I suffer badly with anxiety; I attended a training session and spent three hours of it rocking back and forth, I do not have propranolol – this is the magic pill that wipes away anxiety: today I realise how strong its’ effect is on me. Today Mara, a friend who happened to be on the course, approached me and asked a simple question, “Bernie, I do not have any pills, but what can I do to make you feel better?” Such kindness should be noted and rewarded, simple, succinct and sincere. So much anxiety.
When we are sad or disturbed, suffering with anxiety or depression, it is hard to focus on others, we only think of us. You can probably spot someone suffering from anxiety, they will look nervous, they may be sweating, they may look vague and withdrawn. When I am anxious, I feel generally unwell. As well as headaches, my stomach will ache and I will visit the bathroom regularly, I won’t eat for fear of being sick. I will likely be concerned about everything that is going on and unlikely to be able to remain still.
So if you would like to make a difference, why not approach the individual, you don’t have to point out that you have spotted their anxiety, but you can simply offer a smile, a hug, a cup of tea and the opportunity to be listened to.
I approached a lady one day. I was travelling through Liverpool Street and spotted this woman who was absolutely distraught. I went to the kiosk, bought a cup of sweet tea and sat next to her. We didn’t exchange many words, I simply sat next to her, gave her the cup of tea and waited for her hysteria to subside. The only words spoken when she calmed herself, “thank you, I will be alright now”, and I left her to be. You see, our intervention is easy, we can make excuses and say, but I don’t know them, so what … That’s an excuse. Make a difference. When you give someone something so special, your time, you will receive a wonderful feeling in return.
You can change the world with one bit of kindness, You can make history in a second. You can change the world with one bit of kindness too; kindness keeps us afloat. Please take the time to watch this video and be inspired to make a difference today. Love Bernie xx]