Listen to Me
“LISTEN … Yes you… listen to me.”
“I am” … they look away at the object they hold …
“You’re not listening … you’re playing with your phone ….”
“I can do two things at once …”
Have you ever been here? Have you ever been on the receiving end of your own voice only to hear silence. Many of us have, we have sat there awaiting acknowledgement from the person reciprocating (you hope) conversation. Listen.
They insist they are listening, however, their eyes bounce around the room, they check out the ceiling, the floor, the odd ornament … even the clock that doesn’t work…. are they truly going to listen?
If you have to start your conversation with an initial demand of “You’re not listening to me…”, you really are heading on at uphill battle… it’s exhausting, why bother, why exert yourself trying to get your point across? I mean … what exactly is it you are trying to achieve?
Wanted to talk about your #feelings… didn’t you? So what’s one feeling over another? I mean… so you feel bad … can’t use that word, it implies something unpleasant and this simply won’t do! Listen.
So you blurt out your feelings like a rabid rabbit: lonely, despair, sob sob, dark, sob, weak, you cuff your nose of your sleeve, confused, you draw breath in an attempt to pull yourself together, … oh gosh, so very very tired, you listen for their response.
Next time you state you are listening to someone, do be gracious enough to listen, because who knows, with the statistics as strong as they are (information below), it may be the last time you do have the opportunity to listen to the individual in question.
#Statistics produced by the Samaritans for the year 2012 demonstrates that he highest suicide rate per 100,000 for females and for all persons was in Scotland and for males was in Northern Ireland; the lowest rates for these three groups were in England. The Samaritans … they listen …
UK Wide, male suicide rates are higher consistently than female rates, this fact has bust a myth, most people believe suicide to be higher in females; it is not, suicide is higher in males in all categories.
For the UK as a whole, England, Wales and Northern Ireland the male #suicide rate is approximately 3½ times higher than the female rate. In Scotland the male suicide rate is approximately 3 times higher than the female rate.
Don’t scoff at this fact … don’t take it in your stride and just get on with life … assimilate this information in a smaller chunk… 1 in 4 people are believed to currently suffer with depression … that’s 1 friend in a group of 4 of your friends, how many of this 4 are males? This is not to say that a woman would not commit such a drastic act. #JustListeningtoYou.
Further research on suicide available: http://www.samaritans.org/sites/default/files/kcfinder/files/research/Samaritans%20Suicide%20Statistics%20Report%202014.pdf